I, for one, doesn't believe in courtships and such because it is my belief that the guy just show his good self when he courts a girl and in a relationship, there wouldn't be happy days only; there would come a time that arguments or misunderstandings would arise and the girl or the boy would make insults or nasty comments on each other and this could very well be avoided if the girl knew what the guy really is, both the good in him and the bad.
Now, many would say," ay gnun? eh bket nakikita kita nililigawan c ganito or c ganun?" and my answer would be like what I have said to a girl that is a close friend to me and it goes like "And so if I still continue doing it even though I don't believe in it. I love that person so much that I would do anything for her, even if I don't believe in it. If it would bring me closer to her then by all means I would court that girl."
10.)
Give her chocolates or something sweet to eat..
They say that chocolates have "phenethylamine" which induces the person to experience a sensation similar to being loved. In a way, the sweetness of it actually feels like being loved and eating it also feels relaxing and can help when a person is experiencing tensions in his daily life.
So is the guys just gonna give her chocolates every single day???
---OF COURSE NOT!
Just give it to her once in a while. Remember, chocolates also are fats so watch it! Oh! and also, I find it best to give it when she feels tensed or just plain sad, it would really cheer her up!
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9.)
Give her also flowers.
Flowers give a lot of meaning to a person depending on what type of flower it is or even the color it has. This is what is called as "floriography." Not only does the type and color matter in choosing flowers but also the smell must be considered because some flowers have strong smells so be careful with what type of flower you give.
Just giving these things is not that impressive but it makes a whole lot better if you know the story behind the flowers, why you chose it, among the rest, as a gift to her. It makes her feel more special that way.
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...And don't forget the stuffed toy!!!
The trinity in gift giving is as thus enumerated...
a.) Chocolates
b.) Flowers
c.) Stuffed toys
So why do guys love to give stuffed toys???
Well, it's like a memento of the day that they had together or a substitute for the guy who gave it whenever he's not with her. It's like saying, "you never be alone, I'm always here for you. Just hug this bear really tight and you feel like I'm the one you are hugging."
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7.)
Watch a movie
Many if not all women wants to watch a movie... Heck! Even men wants to watch movies sometimes, but the question is... "what type of movie does she want to watch?"
There are so many genres to choose from and "NO!" even though you are on a date it doesn't necessarily mean that you gonna watch romantic movies or chick flicks for the girls... Come on! It's a new generation people. And in this part, it will see how receptive you are to the types of the girl you are courting.
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6.)
Go somewhere different.
Most of the time, guys take girls to malls so far away to have a date.
This is quite common really but there are also other places where you can take her, AGAIN depending on how well you know the girl that you love.
There's the park or the bay-side or even the museum!!!
YES! You can even take her to a museum IF AND ONLY IF, she likes it or if the museum is really interesting because there are really fascinating museums around and they're not what you can call as "run of the mill" type.
This is, again, another test of how sensitive you are with the girl you are courting.
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5.)
Sing her a song that lets you tell her how you feel.
Remember, we are Filipinos and one of the things that Filipinos does is singing to the girl or what we call as "harana." Now, we do these things somewhat differently now since there is a law that says that a person should not disturb the peace of the people residing in an area but once in a while(especially when you two are alone and there's not much persons around then you can sweetly sing to her the very best song you can come up with, you can even make your own song for her, you just have to find the right words to describe her and how you feel about her.
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4.)
If you can't sing it, recite it.
For those who are not that musically one with harmony(like me) then you can consider going for a poem for her. It's like singing but you can do without the tune of the poem. This is also a very beautiful way of saying that you love her and want to be there for her, to support her in any way that you can and to protect her in all her troubles.
This would really show how creative you are in courting the girl and if you did pull it off then congratulations!
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3.)
If you don't have any creative bone in your body then let it all out in a prose.
A friend once told me that sometimes, a person wouldn't get what you are saying to him or her unless you "let it all out," meaning that you shouldn't be lingering with your words and just tell her, in very simple yet sincere words that you love her.
Tell her a story, a story about a boy, meeting a girl, getting to know the girl, and falling in love with the girl, hoping that the girl would also feel the same and finally ending up together. This is nice, sweet and simple and yet, very much appreciated by the girl.
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2.)
Make her your own gift.
For me, nothing beats making your own gift to her.
a.) First is that it is unique because you made it for her.
b.) Second is that it would show how dedicated you are to loving her.
c.)Third is that it would show that you do the things you do with all your heart.
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1.)
Don't listen to this guide!!!!
This would be the number one thing you should do.
The first thing I said was that this is a guide so it is still up to you to decide whether to follow this or not. You can do all of this but it may not be what the girl that you are courting wants. Persons differ from one being to another so it would still be up to you on what manner of courting you would do.
In a way, this part also says that you should open your heart to the girl. Show her your true self. Don't be just bragging on how good you are or how much she would be treated once she becomes your girlfriend; court her in a way that it would show not only your good side but your whole self, it would be the most wonderful thing that you could do to her.
